“Are you finding flaws, just to stay in the game?”
I thought of this line from Song To An Artist the other day, during a conversation with a friend of mine, let’s call her Austin. She was telling me about a friend of hers who was unhappy at work. Austin had tried to encourage her friend to look for a different job, but her friend was convinced it wouldn’t be better anywhere else. Further, she started to question Austin on whether the happiness Austin had found in her own workplace would really last.
I felt the gears in my head moving. This was sounding awfully familiar. And I said: “There’s a name for that. It’s called ‘finding flaws’.”
I think I can safely say we’ve all experienced this at one time or another. We’re in a situation we’re unhappy with, and we see alternatives around us that could potentially make us happier. *But* we’re so scared to take the leap, that we criticize the very thing that we’re desiring, so that we can talk ourselves into believing we’re better off where we are. And we stay there – in a familiar, yet uncomfortable, holding pattern.
This is: finding flaws, just to stay in the game.
But do we ever really buy into the fake arguments that we make ourselves swallow? Isn’t there a little part that’s always nagging at us inside, a little voice that asks ‘are you sure…’?
As I said, I think pretty much everyone experiences this. Artists are no exception. We have choices at every turn: pick something that just might lead to greater happiness, or stay safe in the game as we know it? If you’re an artist, I think I don’t have to give you any examples. You know exactly what I’m talking about, and your own examples are probably flashing through your mind right now…
I know. It’s uncomfortable.
And this is where the next bit comes in. I guess part of what Song To An Artist is about, is this: how to find love within ourselves to help us reach out for the things we want. Because even on the days we wake up feeling inadequate or doubting ourselves, the universe – which is itself a massive expression of creation – loves what we do and wants us to keep doing it:
“when you wake up in the morning, does it feel like the same old day?
that same day, you know, I couldn’t resist… resist your way”